Creating a Successful Happy Life

What is success?

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Heart on Copper by Denise Demaras
 

Success and happiness are found from the inner stirrings of our heart, rather than the from the standards and status symbols from our outer world.

The inner stirrings of the heart surface as ideas for action and if we are in tune with our heart, we can act  knowingly to create success.

There’s an amazing timeless feeling that accompanies successful living. This comes from genuine inspired living, not the mere accomplishment of completing or meeting goals. It lights us up from the inside, energizing and expanding our appreciation of life. Success is personal and comes from your heart.

Trust Your Heart

When you live from your heart life is a gentle flow from one moment to another through any event in your life. Finding a mindfulness practice you enjoy and is effective for you keeps your connection strong to your heart and to the truth in the present moment.   A practice can serve you with your heart to guide you on the path a life that is successful with inspiration, passion and purpose. It can help you avert confusion or doubt. Trusting your heart as guide also improves your decision-making and opens your life to joy by eliminating fear. 

There are no Mistakes

A wonderful mantra to carry in your heart is that there are no mistakes. When we drop preconceived notions of a right or wrong way, we are free to follow our heart without fear. We cannot fail for there are no failures and each choice brings us to another set of circumstances and possibilities. This opens us up to trust that life informs us of all we need to know to create a happy successful life – one minute at a time. 

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Quick Steps to Meditate

Single and Stress-freeFollow these guidelines to quickly learn how to meditate and establish your practice. As with any practice, it takes practice to ease into a meditative state. In the beginning, use these steps to help you. Remember to be gentle and kind to yourself as you begin your mindfulness practice.

It’s helpful to have a corner or a room if you have one to spare, for your practice. If you want to use a mandala as a tool to relax yourself, keep one there near your sitting place. Decorate with inviting and comfortable items to encourage ease and regular visits, such as a painting, candle, crystal, special chair or cushion, plant, or incense. This serves as a welcoming signal to your body-mind-heart shifting you automatically into a calm readiness for your journey inward.

Give into your practice without stress over the time, attire or positions.  Just be comfortable. Meditate for 5 minutes or 50 sitting in a chair, on the floor or lying down and make whatever you are wearing comfortable. Time disappears in meditation, so if you need to be aware of it – set an easy soft alarm on your phone, a bell is nice.

Lastly, let go of expectations and of judgment of your meditation experiences. In this way you will find one of the benefits of meditation, non-judgmental contemplation naturally brings ease and joy with appreciate of life.

 

HOW TO MEDITATE

  1. Sit easily and comfortably with your spine straight and knees comfortably resting at hip height – you may need to prop your feet up with a pillow or block or sit on to of a pillow depending on your height (if in a chair) or support your knees if sitting on the floor.
  2. Place your hands gently in your lap with hands open and easy or in a preferred mudra. Make an intention if you want – but it is not necessary. Use a mandala or conscious breathing to further ease your mind and when you are relaxed, close your eyes.
  3. If you have a mantra, begin repeating it silently. If you don’t have a mantra, follow your breath or look – with your eyes still closed – to your third eye. That place just between and slightly above your brows.
  4. Observe your breathing as it flows in and out you will automatically and naturally feel calmer.  As thoughts and physical impulses arise, allow them to leave on their own by putting your attention on your mantra, focal pint or breath.
  5. If you have an intention for your meditation – such as healing, gently direct your attention to what wants and needs healing. Whether it is your body , mind or heart or someone or something else – send your love there.
There are many benefits to meditation. A regular practice brings a singular clarity, a calm unified body-mind-heart. This clarity keeps you inspired, enthusiastic and loving life. Move beyond being simply motivated to living passionately.  To learn more about meditation, mindfulness practices, or get a personal mantra contact me.

10 Tips to Nourish and Strengthen Your Liver

SONY DSC Most of us harm by overburdening our Liver without realizing. We live in a stress-filled, toxic world. The demands made on our bodies and emotions by our lifestyle, water and food supply, prescription and over the counter drugs, toiletries and cleaning products, have our Liver working overtime. Some of the tell-tale effects of this O.T. are weight gain, foggy brain, skin and digestive issues and a seemingly immovable swollen waistline. Eventually, if not managed, you can develop a disease. Help your liver, lose weight and stay healthy with these ten practices:

  • Eat several small meals throughout the day.
  • Stop eating and drinking a few hours before sleeping.
  • Reduce foods high in saturated fats such as animal products and nut oils.
  • Eliminate ‘bad’ fats and oils such as hydrogenated and other poor quality fats found in spreads such as margarine and butter substitutes, as well as rancid oils. Unless unrefined and organic all oils are usually rancid. Processed foods and often prepared foods use rancid oils and hydrogenated palm oil – avoid them.
  • Limit your intake of nuts. Unless you shell the nuts just before eating, they are very likely to be rancid (toxic) – especially true with peanuts. Also, this includes most spreads made from butter such as peanut butter.
  • Buy seeds in small amounts; they go rancid quickly. Don’t store for long periods of time and if possible fresh grind for use.
  • Drink pure water. Filter your water when possible. Distil Avoid the plastic bottles when possible and if you don’t have a filter, add a drop of grapefruit extract to your water before drinking or washing, soaking food. A shower filter is an inexpensive way to limit harmful chemicals into your body.
  • Eat as many whole, organic, Non-GMO Foods. You are putting your health at risk otherwise.
  • Choose alternative medicine practices when possible to avoid using prescription drugs unnecessarily. There are times when these drugs are necessary, just be mindful of what is truly necessary and helps or hurts you in the long run. You will know this naturally when you practice living mindfully.
  • Find a mindfulness practice to help you manage stress such as deep breathing, meditation, walking, yoga, swimming or dance.

Learn mindfulness practices with me in person, by phone, or with my book. Which ever way choose to learn, mindfulness is an easy, gentle, effective and fun way to improve your health and life.

A Small Change Delivers Big Goals

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Last night I received a link via Twitter to Donald Hoffman’s Ted talk, Do we see reality as it really is?  Hoffman’s experiments suggested something other than ‘energy’ or God behind life as we see it. He stressed that how we perceive truth or reality depends on our eyesight.

He ‘proved’ that our vision largely is the basis for how we perceive reality and that we actually recreate our reality over an over again based on what we remember seeing. This was truly pivotal for me in many ways. Just putting on pair of glasses shows us that one level but then you can go deeper – and he did. Last night I fell asleep thinking about one small part of his talk – small things and how they create the big world, our thoughts and our lives.

I awoke suddenly from the blasting of a fire alarm.  It’s sole purpose seemingly to wake me out of the  dream. After shaking the sleep and dream off, I unconsciously made a change to my routine. I turned on the television – something different for me – I generally check in with the world on my laptop.  My mind wandered back to Hoffman’s talk  as  I stared into the screen announcing news about the confederate flag, slavery, and the technical glitch on the stock exchange.

As I navigated through the news from station to station – small increments of information formed a trail and picture of events in the world for me. I followed the like breadcrumbs on a trail that guided me for 15 minutes and ended at an interview with Danielle Strickland. She talked about her life, mission and new job with the Salvation Army in L.A. She also included a wonderful cupcake story that brought tears to my eyes and laughter at the same time.  She is fresh, funny, authentic and on fire with a mission.

After the interview ended, I went to her website and saw her book mentioned, A beautiful Mess. Another synchronicity for me as I almost bought the book and saw a shop in my neighborhood with the same name.  Another crumb on the trail, I went to her website and read a few posts – one that stood out for me today as it was in line with my thoughts – small things matter.

Our days and lives consist of events – many small ones.  We can consciously create these events and make small changes to change our lives in a big way.  Whether you want to change unwanted behavior or addictive behavior, lose weight, improve your health of reach another life goal – small changes can make a big difference in our life experience. I know this from experience both professionally and personally – even just one small consciously made step can produce a huge and positive shift in your life.

Change is my middle name. Call or contact me if you need help moving towards, making or managing a change.

Denise Demaras, CHC, AADP

 

 

Be the One True Magnificent You

through the mist you feel; something here is not real

Painting and Poem ~ Denise Demaras

Live Your Truth

Through the mist you can feel

Something here is just not real.

Meditate to know how you feel –

Understanding this is the deal.

To feel love and joy in what you do

And from the ones all around you

Question feelings that are sad or blue

Look within – the answer’s inside of you.

If things are not what they used to be

Let them go and be free.

Allow life do what it likes to do –

Flow and go all through you.

Be the one and only true –

Wonderful magnificent you!